Valentine’s Day is here again!! The stores are packed with red roses, teddy bears, chocolates of different shapes, sizes and flavours & lingerie. Social media is flooded with picture-perfect couples, and everywhere you turn, there is talk of romantic gestures, gifts and even proposals. For some it is a dreamy day, for some others it is a dready day!
For many women, today comes with an unspoken pressure—the pressure to be celebrated, to receive gifts, to be in a relationship that looks as dreamy as the ones on Instagram. If you’re single, it might feel like a reminder of what you don’t have. If you’re married, you might feel unappreciated if your spouse doesn’t make a grand gesture. And if you’re like many women who are just exhausted from the demands of life, you might not even have time to care. You are just happy it is a Friday and you want to go get some good sleep!

As this beautiful day unfolds, try to keep these in mind:

  1. Comparison is a thief of joy – It is so easy to look at other people’s highlights online and wonder, Why not me? Like they say in my country sometimes, “Am I a statue, why is this not happening to me?” But remember, social media is a perfectly curated gallery—it mostly shows the best moments of people’s lives, not the full story. The flowers and gifts don’t always reflect the real health of a relationship. The flowers and gifts don’t always show the behind the scenes.
  2. Don’t allow feelings of loneliness & struggles with depression – For some, Valentine’s Day triggers feelings of loneliness, past heartbreaks, or a sense of being unloved. If today feels heavy for you, pause and acknowledge your emotions. You don’t have to pretend. It’s okay to feel what you feel—but don’t let those feelings define your worth. It is just one day. Don’t get yourself into allowing one day define your whole existence or slow you down from all the progress you’ve made with changing your image of yourself
  3. Don’t fall for the Trap of Seeking Validation – Love is beautiful, but it’s dangerous when we make the actions associated with love the measure of our worth. You are not less valuable because no one gifted you a bouquet, or because you didn’t get a marriage proposal today or because you are sitting by your lonesome in your room right now reading this post. Your worth is not found in a relationship status, a ring, or how much effort someone puts into today. In and by yourself, you are of great value to God.

Instead of chasing the world’s version of love, lean into the love that never fails—God’s love. Remember what He says about you:

“I have loved you with an everlasting love; I have drawn you with unfailing kindness.” – Jeremiah 31:3

God’s love isn’t seasonal. It doesn’t show up once a year with balloons and chocolates. It is constant, strong, and faithful—whether you’re single, newly married, celebrating your silver jubilee, widowed or navigating life’s ups and downs.
Finally, Love Yourself. Treat yourself with the kindness and care you long to receive from others. Buy yourself that gift, take that nap, and spend time in self-care. You deserve care too. Who says you can’t gift yourself the perfect spa package today. Why do you have to wait for someone to do it for you?
Make time to love Others: Valentine’s Day doesn’t have to be just about romance or about receiving chocolates and flowers; call a friend, check on a widow, visit an orphanage, or express gratitude to those who pour into your life. Love is bigger than one type of relationship.
Love God: Spend time in prayer, thanking Him for His love. Let today be a reminder that you are deeply loved, seen, and treasured—far beyond any Valentine’s Day gesture.
Finally, here’s my question for you today:
How are you showing love—to yourself, to others, and to God? Drop a comment below!